Apology Language Test
Saying 'sorry' isn't one thing. Based on the 5 Apology Languages — find what apology actually lands for you (and what yours is missing).
- 7 questions
- ~3 min
- Free basic report
- Full report $9.99
🔐 Free Google sign-in (no password) so your report is saved and shareable. No card required to see your score.
What this test measures
The Apology Language Test scores you on 5 outcome types using 7 scenario questions. Nothing is timed and there are no trick questions — pick the answer that is closest to what you actually do, not what sounds best. When you finish, your report ranks every type from strongest to weakest, so you can see at a glance where the leverage is and where the leak is.
The 5 possible outcomes
Each outcome describes a specific set of strengths and costs, not a label. The full report names your type and your runner-up — the blend is where the useful advice lives.
Sample questions
These are real questions from the test, exactly as you will see them. The full test has all of them — same style, no filler.
1. When you've hurt someone, your instinct is to...
- Say how deeply sorry I am
- Own exactly what I did
- Make it up with action
- Show real change
- Ask if they can forgive me
2. What heals you most when someone wrongs you?
- Hearing a sincere 'I'm sorry'
- Them owning it without excuses
- Them fixing the damage
- Seeing the behavior actually change
- Them asking for my forgiveness
3. An apology feels empty when it...
- Sounds routine
- Blames circumstances
- Is words only
- Repeats next week
- Assumes automatic forgiveness
How the scoring works
Every option nudges you toward one of the 5 outcomes. Your totals decide the winner and the runner-up, which is why the report can describe your blend rather than putting you in a single box. Two people with the same headline result often have different second-place types — that difference is where most of the practical advice comes from.
Your answers are not published and are not used to score you against anyone else. You can retake the test; a retake replaces the previous result.
What's inside the free and full report
| What you get | Free report | Full report |
|---|---|---|
| Overall score / result | ✓ | ✓ |
| Strongest and weakest trait | ✓ | ✓ |
| One-line takeaway | ✓ | ✓ |
| Full breakdown of all 5 types | — | ✓ |
| Personalised recommendations for each gap | — | ✓ |
| 90-day action plan | — | ✓ |
| Downloadable PDF + shareable link | — | ✓ |
The full report is a one-off $9.99, not a subscription. The $49 All-Access pass unlocks every test on the site.
Who it is for
- People who want a straight answer rather than a flattering one.
- Anyone at a decision point — a new role, a stuck project, a relationship pattern that keeps repeating.
- Readers who prefer a short structured test over a 300-page book.
Arguments repeat because the pattern repeats. Naming the pattern — pursue and withdraw, escalate and shut down — is what makes it changeable. This test is built to name it precisely enough to be useful in the next conversation.
Frequently asked questions
Is the Apology Language Test really free?
Yes. You answer all 7 questions and get a basic report at no cost — overall result plus your strongest and weakest type. The full report is a one-off $9.99, no subscription.
How long does it take?
About 3 minutes. There is no timer, and you can reopen the link later — your position is saved in the browser.
Do I need an account?
A free Google sign-in is required before you start. It exists so your report is tied to you and can be reopened or shared, and it keeps the ratings on this site from being spammed. No password, no card.
How is it scored?
Each answer scores exactly one dimension. Dimensions are converted to 0–100 separately and then ranked — no hidden weighting, and nothing rolled into a single total you cannot inspect.
Is this a clinical or professional diagnosis?
No. It is an educational self-assessment built on published frameworks, not a validated clinical instrument, and it does not replace advice from a doctor, therapist, lawyer or accountant.
Can I use it with a team or with clients?
Yes. The shareable link lets one other person see your result, which is usually enough to start a useful conversation. For repeated or group use, the All-Access pass covers every test on the site for $49.
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